We can all admit to a little bit of mania here and there. I haven’t met anybody who couldn’t use a bit more free time or a bit of a breather. Our lives are fast paced, and what little time we do have for ourselves we often waste on Facebook or Netflix (Guilty as charged.)
I am going to suggest something revolutionary. It’s not that you don’t have enough time, its that you have too many distractions from what really matters. If you have ever opted to stay in and binge watch TV, rather than go out or visit with friends, then I’m talking to you. If you’d rather play on your iPhone than play a board game, then I’m talking to you. When did it all get so crazy?
You need a brain break, bruh!
Step 1. Clarify your values. What do you really care about? I don’t mean things you know you should care about, or things you feel bad about not caring enough about. What makes your heart sing? Do you really afford yourself enough time to do the things that make your soul shine? If you put first things second, you will never have sanity.
Personal Example: I love to read. I love to learn new things from people I admire. I really like to sit with a book in my chair, and get lost in the pages. But, I get busy. Recently I have substituted reading a book for listening to an audio book while driving. Guess what? Its not the same thing! Reading a book in my chair is relaxing, while listening to a book on tape while careening through traffic, while invigorating and informative, is not relaxing. Know the differerence.
Step 2. Create Space. After having clarified your values, you need to carve out a special area that is devoted to what you have prioritized. You need to create clear barriers between work and play, hobbies and necessities, family time and personal time. Creating these barriers restores sanity because the mind likes clean lines of distinction. So much of our modern life is muddled and commingled. Having everything all hodgepodge makes us upset and distressed
Personal Example: My dining room table also doubles as my workspace. Bad idea! I don’t have an office at home, but I work from home on my various projects. I wish I could tell you that I always keep my dining room table free of clutter, the laptop, car keys, etc. The truth is most nights I have to clear the table before we can set the table for supper. By creating a defined workspace, or setting certain hours in which I will and won’t be using the table, I solved this problem.
Step 3. Enlist your crew. Parents these days don’t seem to know how to get their kids to help out. One child psychiatrist did a study that found that %80 of the parents who JD chores when they were kids do not give their kids chores. What gives? She says that most parents think it will take too long to teach the children how to do the chores and oversee them. Unfortunately, she concludes, this leaves the parents overworked and the children incompetent.
If you don’t have kids, you still have a crew. They can’t be enlisted for chores, but they can be called upon for help. Don’t be afraid to ask a close friend to lend a hand, and be willing to lend one back.
Personal Example: My mother taught us the “post office game”. It seems she and her sisters were given a clothes basket and told to pick up all the mail (items strewn about the house). The siblings went around picking up the house, then they had to “deliver” the mail to the correct addresses (trash went to the bin, shoes to the closet, etc). It felt like a game, but the house got cleaned. Win-win.
Bonus Step: Make peace with God and others. Clarifying your values and putting first things first, should mean squaring accounts with your Creator. Connecting with God, having your conscience cleansed, and knowing that you are right with God and men brings a tremendous relief to the souls and mind. It restores sanity.
Personal Example: Each morning I take a few minutes to pray, tune my heart to God’s priorities, and read a devotional. I feel energized and directed. It clears away the mental and emotional clutter of yesterday, and gives sets my course for the day. Having oneself in spiritual balance, makes for a liberated existence.
The bottom line is it up to you. You make the changes, that you want to see in your life. No one else can do it for you, but you can call on the Heavenly Father for His guidance and instruction.